What is a dual carriageway I hear you ask… it really doesn’t matter but if you must know its “a road divided by a central strip of land etc. with each side used by traffic moving in one direction”.

Anyway its the weekend again and I’m going out soon to meet, yes, another dual aka. “potential soul mate #21″

Back to my previous post I thought it was wise to realise that as a “nice guy” i.e on the objectivity end of the scale it is about time I emulated some “jerk-iness” so to speak and be a bit more assertive with my attitudes towards dating.

Of course however much I emulate we can’t deny my true “nice guy” nature unless that part of my psyche dies altogether, d’oh!

By next week I will add some thoughts and iconic summaries of Gulenko’s Erotic attitudes which I find quite interesting especially the “aggressor-victim” scenario with a couple I know

That’s me signing off for the weekend.

PS. On second thought she’s probably an ENFp instead. I didn’t feel any dual understanding, attraction or talk-for-ages-about-everything vibes.

PPS. In fact I can say for sure now that this particular girl was indeed an ENFp producing an asymmetrical relation of supervision which after much thought and reflection seems correct with the way I basically “supervised” from the start.

PPPS. I could later tell from a glance that this relationship is not going to get very “close” due to a distant psychological distance and just like my own “supervisor” friend we’ll probably hookup once in a blue moon if we wished.

Postscript (#4). In accordance with Gulenko’s Erotic Attitudes we were both “infantile” which equates to a degree of selfishness in regards to wanting the other to be a ‘guardian angel’. It worked to some degree but eventually I noticed a child-like quality between us regardless of actual ages.

PPPPPS. This experience proves how all types of relations are important to understand because then you can honestly decide what you want from it. In this case, a casual relationship would be appropriate for me considering we don’t get too attached.

Final Postscript & Conclusion. When you read a pseudo-scientific article giving a how-to on converting a casual relationship to a serious one that would seem silly to me. It completely disregards what Socionics teaches, that essentially types exist and differences in lifestyle will always be apparent regardless of trying to compromise in this way.

From a purely impersonal and cold-logic point of view you would identify relationships and honestly make the best use of them, there is no compromise, there is only guidance, improvement or avoidance with knowledge of objective reality i.e. having a fair idea of what’s actually going on rather than a ‘good enough’ subjective account.