The MBTI® was created by a member of the “humanitarian” club who also approximates with what I call an “objective-democrat”. We essentially get a person who believes in human welfare and “equal opportunities”.

Thus the myers-briggs model of personality asserts that every relationship is equal although there are differences in individual personality. This is a simplified dissociation with reality and thus distorted.

According to my general understanding of Socionics this is not an accurate view of reality (“truth”). In actuality four of sixteen inter-type relations are “unequal” (i.e. asymmetric). Aushra Augusta, a researcher and creator of Socionics who was obviously what I call an “objective-aristocrat”.

This essentially means that she appreciated that born out of equality comes inequality where people have different learning curves and abilities in a society that rewards excellence of different kinds.

In other words for example, “people are not born geniuses they become geniuses” probably through a natural development of their randomly dealt personality type that we come to know for the years as like to be a certain-way.

Let’s use myself (INTj) as the reference point in this logical story…

My supervisor relation is the ESTp “Marshal”. What can I value from my supervisor? They represent a role-model in my life since their #1 dominant function approximates with my #4 inferior (place of least resistance) function. He essentially demonstrates to me what my weakness looks like if it was indeed a natural strength.

In relations of supervision there is no closeness in my view. There is occasional meeting up with demonstrations of who is superior and inferior. A motivational pep-talk in the form of a physical presence. I don’t get jealous I get inspired, like watching a video of myself of how I could act if only I “just reacted” in a situation more which is exactly what ESTp’s are good at compared to myself, an INTj. Of course they themselves have an Fi inferiority relative to their supervisor, the ISFj.

So anyway, that deals with the values of knowing a supervisor in any one of the four rings of social control as you can read more about on the small groups page near the end.

We now come to ther other “unequal” relationships where I, the benefactor take on a higher level of social respect in relation to my beneficiary, in this case the ISTp “craftsman” (or “artisan”).

Since this is more about respect then superiority these relations can be very loving and caring with an “indulgence of reassurance”. In fact I like these relations better than duality relations in a lot of cases. It feels potentially closer than duality which is too organic for its own good sometimes. The artwork for this relationship on the small groups page really personifies this relationship in regards to its caring nature of respect and reassurance.

Its all very special and you have to objectively decide for yourself what types of relations you like from a Socionics perspective and why.

Conclusion

Every type as supervised to a supervisory type has something to learn and gain of value in not a physical sense but in a spiritual sense i.e. of hope that i may someday model your behaviour for success where i need it. This would come in very useful for NLP practitioners where there is a type who is your natural role-model as I now believe.

In a nutshell I believe its important to note that in rings of social control each inferior type has something to gain from their corresponding superior type. The superior type who oversees an inferior type has little or nothing to gain except the burden of babysitting them.

Every type as benefactor has a beautiful role in relation to their respective beneficiary who respects them. I have felt a spiritual connection on many occasions which completely throws my atheistic/non-spiritualistic beliefs out the window.

In other words I start believing that love and friendship is a beautiful expression of souls talking to each other rather than just the cold logic of how two psyche’s “talk” to each other where everything remains conceptual thus detached from subjective reality.

Objective-Democracy (fair equality) and Objective-Aristocracy (fair inequality) are not mutually exclusive. I believe the challenge for anyone who has studied Socionics is to “settle down” with someone regardless of type with an evolved level of consciousness that allows you to appreciate that whilst yes we’re all different (conceputally) we’re still all the same (spiritually) thus giving you the unique ability to make any relationship work.

To walk the talk I shall strive to put this to the test and watch this space when I reflect later on a successful relationship…